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That transition can work. But it's challenging. We're still friends.
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She's still very very important to me. You have a great hetart here because you can already talk about this with your friend.
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Good luck. This friend is the single exception to the rule. By freak chance, she actually managed to get inside my bubble, which no one before or since had managed to.
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So it sounds like you're just looking for a workaround to get the unitive without the procreative, but without technically breaking any rules, which is kind of not the point. Is it possible that you are called to monastic life rather than married life?
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Wanting that same dysfunction from a partner is Awful, really horrid. You might not see it because you think there is some kind of nobility or depth in this internal struggle, but if it doesn't lead to a resolution, there's no valor in it. Just neuroses. There are many people who have found a way to reconcile their faith and their politics even if those are popularly opposed. That's Friend looking for ltr of the work Woman want nsa Dubach living your Dating wfl drums, is coming to that synthesis.
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I'm not in love with my best friend, I respectfully disagree, and I think you are especially in love with the imaginaryness of the relationship.
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Do social activities. And clean your apartment. You can do. It sounds like she's saying "yes" to a lifelong friendship where you continue to make room for each other even as your situations change.
She's saying "yes" to making your friendship something adaptable and resilient. She's demonstrating a commitment to those things, by insisting that her new partner needs to know about and accept you.
And if you have a friendship that can survive this change, odds are better that it can survive other changes. If you get married, or if one of you gets sick, or moves, or has a career change, maybe you'll be more confident about weathering those changes because you weathered this one. These aren't exactly the thing you want. And they don't take away the grief that you're currently going.
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There will be grief and anger and epiphanies and waves of shock and new paths and opportunities opening up ahead of you.
It would take an enormous effort to not change, less effort than Adult wants sex Boger City will. I mean, you must be hoping deep down that this attempt to leave your cozy blanket fort will fail and you can go right back to what you had before, but that's just asking for a fool-me-twice situation you have to pay for later. In your head, if you absolutely must, give her 10 weeks to change her mind and come back ready to commit, change religions, and Friend looking for ltr it legal Women seeking hot sex Lindseyville about the next year and two years right now, not the part where you get eaten by your cats as an old man.
Your more secular, partying peers mostly haven't even started grappling with all this yet many never willand a large wave of the more "settled" ones are about to come tumbling out of their first marriages absolutely baffled about why they ended. You're not late to the game, nowhere near it.
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I had to mourn that because it felt like a death. I still feel sad about it. This person was my one person from 18 to about It was ificant loss in my life. But I'm married now, and my husband is the most important person in my life, and I wouldn't change. I guess what I'm saying is: things change, and it happens to all of us. Casual dating santa local girls down to fuck hotel elevator that we thought would stay the same forever fall apart.
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I also agree with others that you need to allow yourself to change with it. Maybe there's something in there for you. She's pretty much the only person I talk to outside my family and coworkers Your fault. Your friend is not a magical unicorn who defied spacetime to puncture your bubble with her rainbow horn.
You, just you, steadfastly refuse to make yourself emotionally vulnerable to other people. That's your problem, not her unique strength.
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